Our previous post triggered many private messages about WHY we DECLINE dinner invites from couples when it's our FIRST MEETING. Here are the 4 reasons.. ⏩.
➡️ QUICK ESCAPE - We like to be able to make a swift exit if we don't hit it off with a couple. If you're booked for dinner & during the drink order you notice that they misrepresented themselves, that's not good. Maybe they're rude. Maybe they start off with non-sexy talk or whine about politics. It's nice to be able to bolt if needed. We have left drink meets before.
➡️ TIME VALUE - When we first started swinging it was amazing to just sit next to someone else's spouse. We did the "Flirty Date" thing for a full year. But now, we screen & meetup with couples that don't need the lead up. We all secured child care & time is precious. Let's see about fitting in at least 2 rounds of naughtiness. We can eat afterward if we feel like it.
➡️ BLOATED - Let's face it. You're gonna be MORE GROSS after a big dinner. You will not look as amazing after you add 40oz of drinks to your belly along with a full dinner. French onion soup, blue cheese salad, anchovies on your pizza. Those will all come out in your BURP as you go in for a kiss.
➡️ X-FACTOR - Something else could end the date 1.5 hours into your meal. Plenty of time for a solid round of bumping FUPAS. A large meal can make people sleepy. Your ED meds won't work as well. Somebody can get sick after eating a meal that didn't agree with their body. They could get a call about their kids acting up. ANYTHING could end the potential fun, so play first.
💥 BONUS - You are the cleanest, freshest, & your energy is better earlier in the evening. Our advice is tactical & unconventional. It isn't for everybody. But try it and you may like it.
We're Isis & Eros a mid 30's married couple from Los Angeles. We host "The Priory Society Podcast." A show about our secret adventures in the swinging lifestyle. Come take a listen, the link is in our bio.
1 hour ago
"Edging provides you the ability to explore your sexual pleasure and finish when it's right for you. An orgasm is just one part of how your body gets pleasure; the moments before it are just as important, and edging is a way to extend how long that delicious buildup lasts. Understanding what edging is and how to do it for yourself opens up a whole other part of your sexual experience.
Edging is the sexual practice of getting right up to the point where you're about to have an orgasm, then stopping stimulation, waiting, and starting the buildup all over again. "The intention is to repeatedly bring yourself, or your partner, to the brink of an orgasm—continually building the intense sensations so that when you finally decide to climax, you will be rewarded with a mind-blowingly powerful orgasm," relationship therapist Megan Harrison tells mindbodygreen.
Practiced through masturbation, edging gives you a greater understanding of your body and what it likes. It provides you with increased control over your own pleasure, helping you determine when and how it happens. It also keeps your mind from wandering. "Edging is a good time to practice keeping the mind completely focused on the now. Not only will this concentration and focus help make edging easier, but it will allow a person to fully enjoy the pleasurable feelings," clinical sexologist Sunny Rodgers, ACS, tells mindbodygreen."
Read article on @mindbodygreen#relationships#sex
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4 hours ago
It took me a long time in recovery to begin to work with my s*xuality, there were long periods where I just ... disconnected. This is often the case with those of who do self development work. We may feel everything else needs to be in place first, viewing s*xuality as a “cherry on top” or something extra, a bonus in life (and this is certainly a valid path). But if we think about how our s*xuality and s*xual energy are so at the core of who we are, diving right in can catalyze deep change and transformation quickly (when done in a safe and supported way). What is the cost of disconnecting, dismissing, or pushing our s*xuality into the shadow? We know what happened when we did that with other things... but with our primal life force? Our essence?
For a long time I had a lingering, nagging clue that something was ... missing. That there was a limit on how deep I could go, with my creative work, in my spiritual work, my healing work... alongside a pervasive grief I couldn’t quite name.
The changes in who I could be, what I could reach for, what I could access, were profound once I fully embraced this work. Where in your path of recovery, growth, healing are you? Where do you rank the importance of your s*xuality? Are you ready to dive in?
I’m here to say that powerful, enlivening wild, beautiful s*xuality, based in self love, sobriety, integrity, passion and PLEASURE is not only your birthright, but CAN be claimed as part of recovery.
DM me or see link in bio for a free session to uncover what is there for you in recovery! Photo @hillarybaackphotography
Reposted from @pinkcherry_com The world of shibari is an interesting one, in our latest blog we've barely scratched the surface. 🛌That's a good thing because now, you can take a deeper dive into shibari and learn all there is to know about this beautifully erotic art of rope tying. And we're here to help with a wide assortment of bondage and fetish equipment for every style or mood. Shop our selection today! 🎀LINK IN BIO 🎀
#Blog #Shibari#JapaneseBondage#Rope#Safety#Fetish#SexPositive#BodyPositive#PinkCherry - #regrann
How hard it is to find a woman in that will love and be in a relationship with me, while taking other men’s cocks on the side too... just want a little slut who I can cuddle at the end of the night while she rests#SexPositive #BeMySlut#LateNightThoughts#TwitterAfterDark
25m25 minutes ago
I picked "one-arm scissor" and then realized I would absolutely butcher that song. I feel like I owe someone an apology.
¡El sexo es mucho más que estimulación genital! 🔥
Dale a tu cuerpo tiempo para excitarse, permite que tus genitales se endurezcan y se mojen antes de la penetración.
El juego previo también es sexo y suele ser la parte más olvidada.
Empieza tus sesiones con un masaje o toque erótico, dale a los besos la importancia que merecen, prueba juguetes que le abran la puerta a la pasión, plumas, vendas, aceites o lo que despierte tu curiosidad, todo se vale ♥️ Para los arriesgados: Etiqueta a alguien con quien quieres calentar 😏
#pansexual #sexpositive#juguetessexuales#jugueteseroticos#juegoprevio#furi#calentandomotores#masajeerotico#calentamiento#sabiasque#datoscuriosos #lunes💪 #cali
People have been messaging me from small towns across America saying how difficult it is to find other open-minded folks in their area. .
If you and your partner want to branch out but can’t seem to find people to explore ethical non-monogamy with, one option is to outsource intimacy honestly with a paid professional.
I recently worked with a straight married couple with mismatched desires for intimacy. They were really struggling. The wife was open to letting her husband pursue intimacy elsewhere because she wanted to feel less pressure to satisfy him, but she wanted to remain married to him. The husband, too, wanted to remain married to his wife despite their desire mismatch. But he said he was having zero luck on dating websites because “no one” in his conservative town would date a married man. .
I introduced them to the idea of outsourcing honestly by hiring a sex worker. At first, the social stigma was uncomfortable for them. But we worked through their concerns, and the man started seeing a sensual massage provider monthly. This turned out to be a win-win for both the husband and the wife. His needs were met, and she was reassured knowing that the risk of complications was low thanks to the professional container. The couples’ relationship quickly improved because they were no longer expecting each other to fulfill all their needs, so they could focus on what they loved about each other.
Here are a few examples of professions that allow for some level of safe erotic exploration: .
-Sensual massage providers
There is nothing shameful or wrong with paying a professional to hold space for your exploration. In fact, it’s a surefire way to expedite it.
4 hours ago
Some wise words for Osho 💓
“Our bodies are built for connection. Not just a casual hug or hand on the shoulder. We’re built to thrive on love, and intimate touch is a natural physical manifestation of love. And by intimate touch, I mean the kind that says ‘I’m right here, fully present with you, at this moment,’ rather than intimacy which is just about genital contact. It’s an intimacy which can be shared with anyone we love, not just sexual partners”.
Learn how to explore new ways to be with yourself & your lover.
Join Alison Petrie and I for the next Sydney "The Art Of Pleasuring For Men & Women" workshop on the weekend of March 21 and 22.
Find out more info and book online at https://www.tarafischer.com/theartofpleasuringformenandwomen (link in bio) 💋💓
My 4th house is split between Gemini and Cancer, with Jupiter on the Cancer side. I’m very maternal with everyone (including my parents) but I also like cracking silly jokes with the kids. My younger siblings forget I’m an adult sometimes. Strong Wendy energy!
3 hours ago
march first is RIGHT around the corner so #thecocktalesclub wants to know if YOU and YOUR FRIENDS will be tuning in to listen to the #sexpositive #sexpodcast! so TAG A FRIEND you think should listen ❤️ be sure to head to the link in our bio TO SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss episode one xoxo
2 hours ago
Please join for some ropey fun at the PRAG Play Party tomorrow at Catalyst: A Sex Positive Place! Other types of play are welcome but we love to see rope involved. So come hang out and get your rope on!
The dungeon will be open at 7:00pm and all play is welcome!
The class at the beginning will be an intro to rope! This evening's class will be taught by PDXCinder and will cover many of the basics to get you started on your rope journey. There will be a discussion on rope safety, different types of rope, styles of rope bondage, negotiation and consent for rope scenes and what to have in your rope kit. You will learn 2 types of single column ties, a double column tie, and a simple pentagram chest harness. No previous knowledge is required but all are welcome to attend!
Cinder(he/him) is a switchy top with sadistic tendencies who discovered the Portland kink scene in the spring of 2018 and hasn’t looked back since. He has a passion for rope, impact play, dynamic scenes, making toys, safety, and education. Cinder is honored to give back to the community volunteering his time as a dungeon monitor, taster, and event host.
This will be a fun class so make sure you're there when it starts at 7:30pm!
The Portland Rope Arts Group promotes education and the exchange of knowledge about rope bondage. We will be holding this event at Catalyst: A Sex Positive Place. You will find several hard points and plenty of floor space for ropey fun. Please feel free to bring a potluck item for the food table!
PRAG thanks all of you for your support. Please join us at our monthly classes held on the second Monday at Catalyst: A Sex Positive Place!
PRAG Play Party
$10 - cash only, please
Catalyst: A Sex Positive Place
5224 SE Foster Rd
Portland, OR 97206
We're excited to introduce Crafted from Scratch! Crafted from Scratch sells original artwork inspired by nature, feminism, allyship and body positivity. Kate, the artist behind the beauty, makes stickers, magnets, buttons, stationery and canvas wall scrolls!
Kate says it better than we ever could:
"I'm a local Portland artist inspired by nature, social activism, witchcraft and plenty of puns. My watercolor designs combine a dash of whimsy, a bit of magic, and a healthy dose of subversion. I've been creating artwork my whole life, but I started this business as a way to create connections within our community. I believe art can bring us together." Come out and support Kate and the other artists and vendors at the Catalyst Leap Year Vendor Fair this Saturday from 10am-4pm at Prism House PDX!
The current vendor list is:
Audrey Angel Art
Blood and Resin
Breathe, Toys and More
Chainmaille by Chelle
House of Wolfram
Kandi's Kitten Boutique
Little cosmic customs
Living Love Revolution and I
Luka Custom Trinkets
Lulu's Little Boutique
RACK Leather Goods
Short Arm Shibari
Slow Camera Photobooth
Switch Leather Company
Toys That Please
Warped Wire Creations
Live Music: Tomoki the Violinist
Naughty Balloon Art: The Adult Balloon Twister
This time around, we have over 30 vendors from the PNW sex-positive community! We're hit a new record and cannot WAIT to see how this vendor fair goes!
Catalyst Leap Year Vendor Fair
February 29th, 10am - 4pm
$5 entry (includes raffle entry!) This event will be hosted at:
Prism House PDX
5516 SE Foster Rd,
Portland, OR 97206
This event is proudly co-sponsored by KBOO Community Radio!
32m32 minutes ago
Thank you for this quality content.
6 hours ago
Often, women ask for "the pill," get their prescription, take it as prescribed and think no more about it. But what you don't know is that the hormones in birth control pills can actually affect who you find attractive. 😲
Yep, I'm serious! The hormones can shift your perception of what you naturally are attracted to. They affect your olfactory (smell) sense which means that you respond differently to possible mates. .
Imagine the impact this might have on current or future relationships!
And what about other times in life when hormones change?
Learn more: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/birth-control-pills-affect-womens-taste/
We need to retool our thinking to reach the younger generations! What are some ways you and/or your org are reaching out to younger folks? #HIV#GetTested#SexEd#SexPositive #youthoutreachhttps://twitter.com/pozmagazine/status/1232085318754586624 …
NEW EPISODE ALERT • BABY. OCTOPUS. HERPES 💌 I’ll be honest, I have no idea where to begin with this episode. It’s a hilarious sex-centric smorgasbord of topics: STDs, church, comedy, animal trivia, death, babies, puberty, and the awkward side of bedroom intimacy. Some strangers talk about the weather to break the ice. We talk about fornication. Link in bio to listen! Also available on all major podcast platforms. #sexpositive#datingmemes#couplememes#couplegoals#boyfriendquotes#relationshipquotes
1 week ago
Ve lo ricordate questo disegnino? L'avevo fatto con i marker in occasione dell'inktober. L'ho poi digitalizzato e l'ho messo su Redbubble, quindi adesso lo trovate su una serie di prodotti, da questo piccolo sticker alle lenzuola - che, vi dirò, non sono molto discrete ma fanno la loro figura! ⭐
(Il link allo shop Redbubble è sul mio profilo!)
#queer #queerart#sexpositive #sessualità #lgbtitalia#queeritaly#redbubble#redbubbleartists@redbubble